I don’t think there’s anyone out there who doesn’t have at least one individual hating them. Not just a tongue in cheek hate, but straight up loathing. And people have many reasons to hate someone, but it truly does take a lot to say you truly hate someone. In my experience, I’ve usually stayed under the radar and never had more than a handful of people I could say really hated me. I do have a sense of wanting people to like me, not at the expense of my ethics, but by being a decent individual.

To me, I see two main categories of people that hate on others : Those that have their shit straight and those that don’t. The former I’ve met a lot and can actually respect while the latter I tend to avoid and show no pity on nor effort to trying to understand or appease.

The first is more so really cocky individuals. I have met many people with the self confidence and ego I’d only hope to ever have with their head up their ass. They see others as inferior, looking down on others and not wanting to work or communicate. These individuals, however, can back up their cockiness with the skill and knowledge that encourages this before. I used to think in order to grow one needs to be nurtured and have sometimes crumbled in the pressure of personality types like these.

But during the first couple years of work, I realized sometimes tough love is necessary to not only grow but to evolve into a better version of you. In the end, you may command respect from people like these as you show them what you’re bringing into the table. That you belong and are on the same playing field. I used to shy away from these headstrong individuals, but now, I see it as a challenge to further push the boundaries of my personal growth.

And yet, there are those that hate simply because they hate themselves but can’t truly admit to it or completely blind by self pity. These individuals find all reasons to blame others and do nothing but ignorantly list all the negatives of others. The problem is, these negative statements tend to describe themselves to a tee.

I personally can’t stand these types of people and spend no energy trying to reason with them. Truly, they lash out only because they know for a fact they’re worth nothing more but the vitriol they spit. They worry about others’ lives because they have no lives of their own. Their very existence is a waste to them and they’re way too cowardly to climbing up because they rather drag others down. But you see, at the end of the day, you have to look at the mirror and stare at the truth.

All alone, now.

Who do you really hate?